Bedtime Routine: Tips for Success

We have a joke in our house that when the 9:00 hour comes around "happy mommy" quickly starts to fade and her grumpy side starts to come out.  I don't know about you, but by 9:00 my energy and patience is spent (heck, some nights I feel that way by 6:00, who are we kidding!).  If the kids are not in bed and I don't have time to relax and get myself to bed something ugly might happen!

One thing that I have heard Dr. Bailey say over and over again is, "It's not about just getting them in bed or getting them out the door.  It's about so much more than that!"  Many families struggle with bedtime.  It is no fun to have your final interaction with you child for the day capped off by screaming and crying.  We want to put our children in bed filled with love and ready for a good night's sleep.   There are some steps you can take to help you AND your children have a more pleasant bedtime!

Tips for Success at Bedtime:

1. Set a bedtime and stick to it.  As most people know, the body develops natural rhythms and if you get used to going to bed at the same time each night, it will help make the whole process easier.  It's like pre-programming your body for success (the same is true for waking up).  So, even on the weekend, try to stick pretty close to the same bedtime.

2. Turn off the TV and other techy devices at least an hour before bed.  I know there are many people who actually use the TV to help them fall asleep, but the quality of the sleep you get will be so much better if you tune out instead of tuning in!  There is lots of research that will provide the proof for this one!  Use the time before bed to read, play a quiet game like cards or memory, and other fun bedtime rituals.

3. Break down the steps in and decide on your expectations.  What do you want your child to do independently?  Do they have the skills to put toothpaste on the toothbrush all by themselves without making a big mess?  Make sure that you have age-appropriate expectations for your child.  If they are missing skills necessary to complete a task, make the time to teach them or adapt your expectations. 

4. Keep the bedtime routine simple.  Depending on the age and ability of your child, decide how many steps you think they are capable of completing.  Most young children need between 3-5 steps in a routine.  Maximum number of steps would be 7.  Our goal is to help them be successful, so keep it short and direct.

5.  The brain is pattern-seeking, so make sure you create helpful patterns.  If you lay with your child every night or rock them to sleep, be prepared to continue doing that for a very long time.  If you and your child enjoy this time together and it is not a problem for either of you, then by all means continue!  If, on the other hand, you are only doing this out of desperation because it is the only way your child will fall asleep, you are in luck!  Once you begin following these tips for success, you will see that your child is learning the skills necessary to calm themselves and be better prepared to fall asleep on their own.

6.  Make sure you take time to connect.  If you find that your child continues to get back up out of bed after you have tucked them in consider adding a connecting ritual to your bedtime routine.  Connections on the outside with other people build neural connections inside the brain.  Whether you have a prayer you say, song you sing, or other connecting ritual you enjoy, make sure you do it every night.  We are really good at this when our children are young, but sometimes forget how important it is as they grow older.  My children and I have a handshake with a little chant that we say at bedtime.  We created it about 7 years ago and the beauty of it is that even when I am away from home, we can do it over the phone and it has the same connecting effects as if we were in the same room.  For more ideas of how to connect with your children see Dr. Bailey's book "I Love You Rituals".

7.  Add pictures to your routine and practice!  Once you have decided on the steps in your routine make sure you add pictures and practice the routine and steps with your children.  If you want them to put the toothpaste back in the drawer when they are done using it, make sure you practice that with them.  If you want them to pick up their toys before they go to bed, make sure you add a picture of that and practice it with them.  If you want them to flush the potty when they are done...practice! 

8. Celebrate success!  Give your children lots of opportunities to be successful and celebrate their success!  Even if they only do one step independently--CELEBRATE!  When they put their pajamas on (even if they only put one leg in by themselves) celebrate it!  You could say something like, "You put your leg in your pajamas, just like this.  Way to go!!!  You did it!!!"  Continue to encourage your child along the way and focus on what you WANT them TO DO and then CELEBRATE!

9. Believe in yourself and believe in your kids!  Like I said before, this is about so much more than just getting the kids to bed.  It is about teaching them life skills and how to be problem solvers and regulate their behavior.  All behavior has a purpose.  Are they overly tired, scared, hungry, or in need of more structure or connection?   What is their behavior trying to tell you?

10.  Become the person you want your child to be.  I think some of our biggest frustrations as parents come out of our own lack of self-discipline.  I know that bedtime at my house always goes better when I follow the steps listed above, but there are nights that I lack the discipline to follow through and that is when it all falls apart.  In order to have the discipline I need to be able to be a model for my children, I have to take care of myself first.  That means I have to keep an eye on the clock, stay away from the computer myself, and be present with my children so that I can focus on the task at hand.  Make sure that you set a good example for your children by being consistent and doing what it takes to set yourself up for success with bedtime too!

I recently added some printable bedtime routine checklists and books to my Teacher Pay Teachers store.  Here are some pictures of what they might look like. 

 

Click the link for each of the following:

Bedtime Routine Checklist
Bedtime Routine Checklist (Horizontal)
Bedtime Routine Book



Fun and Easy Halloween Costumes

Just for fun I thought I would share some of my favorite costumes that my children or others have worn through the years!  Some of them are homemade and others are store bought.  You can probably guess which ones!  Hope you find some inspiration with Halloween just a week away!

This is one of my all time favorites!  My son is wearing a choir robe and has the mask of an old crone hanging around his neck.  We stuffed a baby pajama set and added some gloves and a hat as well as a pacifier just for fun!  It was a great time watching people react to this costume! 

 

A poodle skirt is so easy to make!  I bought a piece of felt and cut it into a circle then cut a hole in the middle of the skirt just big enough for her waist.  We pinned it in the back to it would stay up, added an iron on poodle and it was soooo easy!

 



 I saw this at trunk or treat one year and about died laughing!  What a great idea!  The child was dressed as a butterfly, but dad was the gorilla!  They put a rope around his neck to make it look like he was her pet!  What fun!

 This is a costume that started with one that my son wore several years ago.  It is the tin man from Wizard of Oz.  We originally took some grey clothes (long pants and long sleeve shirt) and spray painted them and the shoes silver.  We bought a funnel and spray painted it too and added an ax and a little red heart.  My neighbor used the costume for her son (above) and they added some insulated tubing like you would use in heating and cooling and a piece of poster board for the body.  Make sure you find some silver paint for the face too!  This one definitely looks more authentic!

 My daughter was one of the girls from Monster High above.  We just added some makeup to give her an added touch of spooks!

 

My son wanted to be a "hillbilly" in these photos!  He just took some old clothes and ripped them up a bit, borrowed a mullet wig from a friend and added a little black make-up for a beard, put on a hat and you've got a hillbilly!

 

Hope you have as much fun creating costumes as we have in our family!  Since we recently returned from Mexico, I think we are going to be a Mariachi band this year!  I'll have to post some pictures when we get it all worked out!  Happy Halloween!!!  Enjoy and be safe!



Brown Bear Helps Manage Behavior by Looking for Kindness

Usually by this point in the school year you have gotten in to a steady routine with your class.  Now you can begin to expand on some of the social skills you would like to continue to develop in your students.  I like to spend some time focusing on helpfulness this time of year.  It goes well with the fall season of harvesting and being thankful.

Several years ago I was teaching my class about being helpful by using the book, Shubert's Helpful Day by Dr. Becky Bailey.    When I asked my preschoolers what it means to be helpful they didn't have a clue.  Many adults find it difficult to allow young children to have the opportunity to be helpful because "it's easier to do it yourself".  There is lots of research that supports our human need to know that we matter and have something to contribute.  It helps with self-esteem and encourages us to focus our attention on the behaviors we desire instead of those we want to STOP!  Children need many visual examples of what they can do to be helpful!  It reminds them of what to do.   

In my classroom we did lots of activities to learn about helpfulness.  We did role play, took photographs of children being helpful, read stories, and had parents and grandparents come in and share ideas of what they do to be helpful.  We also allow every child to have a job to do in the classroom so they have lots of opportunities to be helpful every day.  More about that later...

Recently, I provided a make and take workshop for early childhood providers with links to the favorite children's book Brown Bear, Brown Bear.  There are so many great activities that you can to connected to the wonderful book!  One of the make and take activities was this printable book that you can make to read with your class and give them lots of ideas of ways to be helpful.  There are also several related activities that can be done with this book.  You can find the whole book in my teachers pay teachers store by following this link.

 

Here is a free printable that you can use to make a class book about being helpful.  There is a cover page for your book as well as a worksheet for children to use for their own ideas about how to be helpful!  How do you encourage your youngsters to be helpful?

 

 



 

 

 

Brown Bear, Brown Bear Greeting Cards

One of my favorite books to use in preschool is Brown Bear, Brown Bear by Bill Martin Jr. and Eric Carle!  I love the predictability of this book and so do children!  There are so many related activities you can do!  The possibilities are endless!

Recently, I created several printables to supplement the story.  Tonight I am sharing some greeting cards I made.  You can use them to help your students get a Brain Smart Start as they connect with you and connect with one another by offering each other greetings.  See the printable for several other ways to use these cards!  

Follow the link to get your copy of the Brown Bear Greeting Cards.

Stay tuned!  I'll be sharing some more related activities later this week!

My "Top Ten" from Bloggy Conference 2013

I recently attended my first blog conference in Sandusky, Ohio.  I have been blogging for about 2 years and wanted some new tools to help me provide a better blog experience for you!  Going to Bloggy Con 2013 was just what I needed!  Not only did I learn more about blogging, but I also made some new friends, and lots of great memories!  I decided to share my "Top Ten" take-aways from our weekend at Cedar Point!

10.  The fun begins BEFORE a blog conference.  The conference gave attendees many opportunities to connect through Facebook, Twitter, and Google+.  Through the Facebook group we were able to ask questions and make connections with other bloggers that were attending the conference.  Tiffany Noth, conference organizer, did an outstanding job of monitoring this site and answering questions quickly or helping us connect with someone who could answer!  I also attended my first Twitter Party with Bloggy Con 2013.  It was a hoot trying to keep up with all those tweets, but I learned a TON! 

9. Cedar Point is a great place for Halloween fun!  The event was hosted in Sandusky, Ohio at the Cedar Point Amusement Park.  That made this a great opportunity for family fun!  Bloggy Con was a very family friendly event!  Many of the bloggers brought the whole family!  The Park was all ready for Hallo-weekends with surprises around every corner (and I mean EVERY corner)!  They have haunted houses, fun decorations, actors in costume for photo opportunities, scary musical and magic shows, and trick or treating! 

8.  Hotel Breakers is a beautiful location right on the edge of Lake Erie, but make sure you dress for the weather!  Upon our arrival at the resort, the weather was NOT very friendly!  I fretted for days about how to dress for the conference (especially the Meet and Greet where I hoped to make some new bloggy connections).  Come to find out, the Meet and Greet was right on the beach where the winds were so strong that the sand was blowing in my face.  Not exactly what I had in mind for meeting new friends.

Here I am with two of the ladies who braved the weather with me while we stood in line for registration at the Meet and Greet!  I felt like one of those weather forcasters that you see on the beach trying to do a report as a hurricane is approaching!  Ack!
 



 

The decorations at Hotel Breakers were AWESOME!  It felt like we were on the set of the Adam's Family!  The whole hotel was decorated like a haunted mansion!

 

 

 

7. When it's cold outside, you can always find warmth in friendship!  I was so fortunate to connect with these five ladies before the conference so we could share the experience together!  I am  happy to call them my friends! 

 

 

Although we come from all around the country, we share the common bond of inspiring others through blogging.  Meet Dee Dee from Designed Décor, Amy from One Artsy Mama, Kirsten from One Tough Mother, Kara from Happy Go Lucky, and Carrie from My Favorite Finds.  





Nothing like warming up next to the Hibachi Grill with lots of food, fun, and fantastic friends!

6. Building community is essential!  My friend, Amy Latta, presented a great break-out session about "Building and Engaging Your Community".  I learned about Quick Growth and Slow Growth Methods for building your community.  Quick Growth Methods include large giveaways, contests, and linky parties.  Slow Growth Methods include referrals, submissions and guest posts.  Each method has its pros and cons.  The main point here is that engagement is more important than growth. 

Amy gave many helpful tips about engaging your audience through social media, blogging at least 2-3 times weekly in a predictable pattern, responding to comments, and asking questions of your audience.  My favorite quote from Amy is "You are more than a blogger, you are a community builder!"  Well said my friend!

5. Pinterest is your friend!  There's a whole lot more to it than you think!  Thanks to Amiyrah Martin from 4 Hats and Frugal I have a bunch of new ways to improve my Pinterest boards and use them to help you connect with great ideas!  Some of my favorite tips were to make sure you organize your boards to include one for your blog as well as the main categories you address on your blog such as fashion, food, and family.  Use the other boards as subcategories and rotate them on a seasonal basis.  Try to limit your boards to 12-20 boards and make their titles, photos, and descriptions SEO friendly.  I also learned about the 80/20 rule!

4. I love my Honda Odyssey!  Every time I go to a big event or meet up with friends and family I have plenty of room for everyone in my van!  I love that it gives me the opportunity to take lots of kids, adults or cargo wherever we go!  Honda was a sponsor of Bloggy Con and the new 2014 Odyssey is amazing!  Too bad they last so long, I sure would love a new one, but we will be driving the '07 until the wheels fall off...so it may be a while!  :) #HondaLove
 

 

3. Bloggy Con is a great place to meet lots of new "Peeps"!  The other bloggers at the conference were so friendly and helpful!  It cracked me up because for once, I wasn't the only crazy blogger taking tons of pictures!  There were smart phones, iPads, and laptops galore at this conference!  These ladies stay connected digitally AND in person!  I especially loved meeting Laura Kelly and her Peeps!  We had a lot in common!  She also used to teach early childhood special education!  Small world, huh!   

 

2. Blogging is a lot like being a teacher!  If I didn't get anything else out of the conference, I learned the importance of getting organized!  I plan to narrow down my subject matter and add more predictability to my blogging.  Since my expertise is in working with children who have special needs and behavior management, you can expect to see more focus in these areas.  I am going to sit down with a plan book over the next few weeks and get plans in order so that by the first of the year, you will see lots of fun new content on the blog!

 

1. My #1 Take-Away from the conference is that "Your Life is a Masterpiece".  Our keynote speaker, Debba Haupert from Girlfriendology, made this powerful statement in her opening address.  The choices we make every day about how to spend our time, money, and energy are like the little dots in the picture below.  If you just had a random splash of dots here and there and didn't emphasize the right colors and organize them into recognizable figures, you would end up with a mess of dots.  You wouldn't see the true beauty of the masterpiece.  

 

 

My ah-ha moment at the conference was that I want this blog to take on its own beauty, but I don't want it to squelch out the beauty in my life.  The most beautiful moments at the Bloggy Conference are the ones I shared with my family.  My daughter and I took some time to walk on the beach experiencing the softness of the sand between our toes and the crisp cool water of Lake Erie.

 

 

We also took some risks together not letting our fear stand in the way of enjoying some amazing roller coasters!  The Iron Dragon was her first "real" roller coaster ride and once she did it, she couldn't get enough and even rode in the front!

 

 



My brother talked me in to riding the brand new coaster called the Gatekeeper!  I swear that this must be what it would feel like to fly!  It was such a smooth and relaxing ride!  I was so happy to share it with him!

 

 

 

As a blogger, it would be easy to become obsessed with all of the social media and numbers and be distracted from the things in life that truly matter!  I want my blog to be about more than sponsored posts, giveaways, and SEO.  I want it to be an outlet for my passion for helping all children be successful regardless of their ability and shining little more light on your path toward being the parent or teacher you want to be!